Thursday, 3 March 2011

Engagement

There are times when I truly believe that my mothering skills are non-existent and this afternoon was one of those times.  I've really struggled to engage with DS this afternoon.  I can't decide whether it's him or whether it's me.  Everything I have suggested as an activity has been met with a resounding, "No!"  And then, just as I was at screaming pitch, DS asked if we could "go outside and pick up leaves?"  Absolutely, son.  What's that, the temperature is barely above 0C?  No problem, we'll wrap up warm.
And that's exactly what we did.

12 comments:

Lizzie said...

Ah Ruth, it wasn't "you" and it wasn't "him", it was just one of those sort of days...
We all have days where we feel aimless and can't decide what to do with ourselves. Adults can usually sort it out and at least find something to waste time with; but it must be more difficult for little boys...
At least he came up with something he would like to do. Maybe he'd enjoy sticking some of those leaves to a large sheet of paper, to make a "picture" - or painting them and pressing them onto the paper, to make leaf-prints (which you could cut out and put all over the wall somewhere in the house)? You might enjoy that too... And that would be Two activities you've done together today (or tomorrow).
Good luck!

Heather said...

awww! Been there Ruth :)
I eventually realised that little boys (& their Mummmy)sometimes need time away from each other - & thats when you realise how grown up he is becoming :(
But you also get to pick leaves together. Good times xx

Bernie said...

All mothers feel this way at one time or another....I am sure DS thinks you are the best mother ever!......:-)Hugs

Ladkyis said...

Kids are like cats and get really antsy and fluff up their tails when the weather changes.
I am told they grow out of it. My three are in their 40s now and I am still waiting. Fortunately they did leave home so.....

Kirsty.a said...

Don't beat yourself up. Congratulations for being able to go with his sugestion

Rhona said...

I don't think it's either of you, sometimes children just don't want to do the things you suggest and would rather do nothing (or pick up leaves!). I wouldn't worry about it :) xx

Deb @ PaperTurtle said...

Well, I have to laugh because Carrie is 22 and we still have this issue at times. Neither of us can agree on what to do to pass the time. Ok, so it DOES get easier, but you are certainly not alone with this situation! :o)

Amy said...

I hear you very loudly and very clearly! You should have been over here in the past week or so - this girl is on steroids!

♥♥ Liz ♥♥ said...

You are not alone in this. My summer was like that a couple of years ago and I realised that my boy didn't need me as much. Wait till Easter when your DN doesn't want to do anything at all. H is like your DN. Easily pleased with the small things in life. xxx

Sian said...

One day when TTO was little I took him out in the pram and he was screaming. The nice man in the fruit shop said "don't worry about it, even little kids are allowed off days" and it just cheered me up so much. That thought that adults weren't the only ones allowed to be in a bad mood!

ComfyMom~Stacey said...

We have those days too. It's no one's fault. sometimes you just have a better idea of what you don't want than what you do want.

humel said...

I hope you're feeling better about it now, Ruth - we have all been there (some of us often) and it really, really doesn't say anything about your mothering skills xx

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