I put her on the spot and asked her to write a guest post about why she had stopped blogging.
~ Mel and me : November 2012 ~
Here's what she had to say:
I first set up my blog back in 2009 to share craft projects. I’d signed up for Shimelle’s class Learn Something New Every Day, and I found that I wanted to talk in great detail about the album I was making – regardless of whether or not anyone was actually interested!! Rather than take over the class forum, I decided to create a blog where I could witter away to my heart’s content. Over time the blog evolved, I developed my own ‘voice’ and writing style, and (more importantly) I began to connect with other bloggers from around the world. Even though many of us limited the amount of personal information we shared, with no real names and limited details about locations, through our blog posts and comments we started to get to know each other and form a community with a bond no less real for being online.
Some of these friendships developed still further: I enjoyed regular Skype conversations with a couple of blog friends, for example, and now and then opportunities arose for some of us to meet in person. I discovered that one blog friend was local to me when I recognised her username on the local Freecycle group! Some bloggers had links to my own area, I visited friends living near other bloggers, and The Doctor’s big work trip to LA made it possible to meet up with several US bloggers too. I’ve also attended two Bloggers’ Weekends and spent time with a group of lovely women who I only initially knew through Blogworld.
And then... I started to get overwhelmed. Life got increasingly busy and, despite loving the connections and interactions and sharing, I started to find it too much. It wasn’t the writing of my own blog posts, but the constantly updating kaleidoscope of interesting news and gorgeous projects and stunning photographs that I felt obliged to view, read thoroughly and comment upon thoughtfully. Please note, that this ever felt like a burden is entirely down to me! But I got to the point where I couldn’t separate the two different parts of blogging (i.e. writing my own posts and reading/commenting on everyone else’s) and I felt overwhelmed by the time commitment.
Even now, I’d love to return to blogging, but I can’t find a way that feels ‘right’ to me. I’m back at work full-time and The Children are both at secondary school, with various activities and commitments to get them to and to support. I don’t want to put my own posts out there without getting back into the community again, and I just know that I’d soon ‘fall behind’ with my reading and commenting and then I’d feel guilty and overwhelmed again... I think it’s a mental adjustment I need, more than anything! But there are friends I’ve lost touch with now because our main link was our blogs, and occasional emails and cards just haven’t maintained the friendship in the same way. That saddens me L
Mel had quite a bit more to say on the topics of Twitter and Facebook, but I'm afraid I've edited those parts out for now, as the reasons for no longer blogging regularly were primarily what I wanted her to share with me and bloggers who miss her daily posts.
Sorry about that, Mel!
I'm lucky in that I can get to see her IRL whenever I visit my mum, but here's hoping she rejoins BlogLand soon ...